On Dating a Rockstar

It has a nice ring to it, you must admit. Dating a rock-star makes you feel like the model-slash-trophy girlfriend. Pretty much like the wife of Travis (Blink 182 drummer). As a member of the sector of society called women, whose population is presumed to have the same qualification as yours when it comes to getting a dating partner, you may be considered lucky. You grabbed a “star”, no matter how crude the word preceding it may sound. You probably feel like a lion-tamer, and it is quite true. Dating a rock-star does have its perks. Like all situations in life though, there is also the other side of the coin.

Love and Hate
He is the man every, if not all, desires, and you’re the lucky lady who caught his eyes. You feel the love and adoration other women dream of. The things you got on your list as a fan who wanted to be the idol’s love have been ticked off fast as lightning, and you are a point of envy. There is nothing bad about it really. Other fans may just stab you right on the back, as you are christened with the name, “idol-stealing bitch”. It is inevitable. Given that a rock-star’s life heavily relies on his fans, you can never be free of the feeling that he is not yours at all. You carry the burden of making these fans feel that you are merely one of them lest you risk your beloved’s career. The more the rock-star loves you, the more the fans hate you. It’s always a two-way street.

Number Two
And they say you have to accept the person for who he is. The rock-star you are dating unfortunately is the Siamese twin of his guitar (or another instrument in other cases), if not the husband of it. You can bet your life on it, no music can be better than what they produce together. Therefore, even the sound of your love-making, the rhythm you produce together, no matter how in sync, can never compare with what “they” can make. You see how he becomes serene when his arms are wrapped around the slim body of his guitar? Envy of that is something you will have to battle with for as long you are with him.

MIA
If you are that lucky, you could be dating a guy who plays in a really famous band. You get to be written about on magazines and even featured on TV (not always in a good light though). However, fame does not come cheap. It eats time, energy, and even enthusiasm to socialize. You are not that lucky after all. After a series of nightly gigs, show guestings, and other famous-people stuff, chances are your rock-star lover is too exhausted to even send you a text message. He’ll probably be Missing-In-Action for a week or two and you are going to drive yourself nuts thinking whether he’s just sleeping like dead or really six feet under.


Number Three
So you thought it is just the instrument, the fans, and the fame getting in the way. You are fine with it. It will take time, but you’ll get the hang of it. Then here comes rehearsals, music-creation itself. You are now down to one (you) against four factors that make him the rock-star he is. Better start asking the question now. Are you still up for it? It is highly doubtful that you will be put in priority against music. It is the root of everything, the biggest nemesis. He can be out nights on end for this, while you crumble and do a crying-in-the-bath scene. This is all you can do. It’s music or you, nothing in between…so much for rock-star life.


See, dating a rock-star may be like winning a lottery, but as most enormous prices, there are aspects which are difficult to swallow. If you're stomach-ed enough for it, then by all means grab your piece of the cake and eat it too. If not, don’t even dream of it.